I wish you to achieve all your goals

But do you know what your goals are?

I liked last week's letter so much, I feel the bar has been set too high for this week, I feel I should have done something worse hahahaha ok…let’s do this.

Disclaimer: I’m with my aunties and they are talking a lot…A LOT.. sorry for my translation if something came out wrong.

How often do you redesign your life?

No, dear reader, I'm not talking about changing everything, moving out of the house, filing for divorce, changing jobs and going vegan, all in the same week.

I'm talking about when you stop in silence for a moment and write down what you want for your life at that moment, see if anything doesn't fit with your current life and then draw how you're going to achieve it?

I was watching a Korean series just now and I saw the young lady come into the house wearing straight black dress pants and stiletto heels, and my first thought was:

"I wish I could dress like that sometimes"

I was startled; we nomadic women who come from careers in big offices say without any fear: "God forbid those heels hurt my feet! My life now is sneakers, flip-flops, pretty but low sandals."

Where did this thought come from: a nice boot, high heels, a cold coat?

Anyway, I carried on watching the series, but something inside me was bothering me, and it wasn't the shoe that didn't fit with the lifestyle I have today, but the shoe that didn't fit with an "old dream" of how I saw myself in the future.

A dream so old that it had been tucked away in a dusty drawer in my head, and I even need to revisit it to see what still makes sense or not.

These two different visions kept dancing in my imagination, so I did the prudent thing: I turned off the TV.

I went to heat water to make a cup of tea, thinking "but I love traveling, what are these ideas dancing around in my head?"

I wonder if it's at that turning point in your life when you start drawing up a new plan/dream to start pursuing and then say "I don't even know how I got here, I was just living".

I don't know if it's that time or not - no, I do, because when we're in doubt, we usually already know the answer, we're just afraid or too lazy to say it - but I find it interesting how, as the years go by, we realize that we have to start designing the life we want (or think we want).

Why? I have the answer of Camila from the countryside and the answer of Camila from the city.

I learned - at a very young age - in the countryside of São Paulo that "for those who are lost, any path is a path", which I think is a very good reason to plan where you want to go.

And the reason I learned growing up in the city is: you're a child, you study at school, with the aim of graduating and you even know the steps, the grades. Then those who are lucky (lucky in the sense of opportunity, because few people have access to higher education in Brazil, and not in the sense of lack of effort) choose a higher education course and go to college with two objectives, to graduate and to get a good job - you know, we kind of always knew what we were supposed to do?

Then you get a good job, move up or change companies to have money for: house, car, wedding, children....ok, you get the idea.

Now, dear reader, if you've already done this, or if you're on the way, what then? And I'm not saying that I'm against this package, or giving triggers to those who want it and haven't achieved it yet.

My question is simpler than that: What's your next goal?

I want a new car! - show, a goal

I want to travel abroad! - show, a goal

I want to encourage people to xxx - show, a goal

But you know what I mean, we need a goal - even if we have to change it later. And I'm of the opinion that from time to time we should sit down and look at these goals again and see what still makes sense and what we're just repeating for the sake of repeating and "that's life".

In today's letter I wish you the courage to look at where you're going and redesign it if that's what makes the most sense to you now.

I wish you strength to sustain whatever you decide.

And I wish you love, so that you can embrace yourself, both when you look at your choices today and during the difficult times of sustaining change.